01934cam a22002654a 4500003000400000005001700004008004100021020003000062040003100092082000700123100003800130245014900168250002500317260003900342300002900381336002100410337002500431338002300456504005100479520101400530541005301544546001201597650003301609650002601642OSt20251028132511.0001205s2001    nyu      b    001 0 eng    a9780060956165 [paperback]  cUniversity of Cebu-Banilad002211 aLerner, Harriet Goldhor.eauthor.14aThe dance of connection :bhow to talk to someone when you're mad, hurt, scared, frustrated, insulted, betrayed, or desperate /cHarriet Lerner.  aFirst Quill edition.  aNew York :bHarperCollins,cc2001.  axiv, 256 pages ;c25 cm.  atext2rdacontent  aunmediated2rdamedia  avolume2rdacarrier  aIncludes bibliographical references and index.  aThe key problem in relationships, particularly over time, is that people begin to lose their voice. Despite decades of assertiveness training and lots of good advice about communicating with clarity, timing, and tact, women and men find that their greatest complaints in marriage and other intimate relationships are that they are not being heard, that they cannot affect the other person, that fights go nowhere, that conflict brings only pain. Although an intimate, long-term relationship offers the greatest possibilities for knowing the other person and being known, these relationships are also fertile ground for silence and frustration when it comes to articulating a true self. And yet giving voice to this self is at the center of having both a relationship and a self. Much as she did in THE MOTHER DANCE, Lerner will approach this rich subject with tales from her personal life and clinical work, inspiring and teaching readers to speak their own truths to the most important people in their lives.  ySenior High SchoolzGeneral Interest: Self Help.  aEnglish 0aInterpersonal communication. 0aIntimacy (Psychology)