02053cam a22003014a 4500 OSt 20251028132511.0 001205s2001 nyu b 001 0 eng 9780060956165 [paperback] University of Cebu-Banilad 21 Lerner, Harriet Goldhor. author. The dance of connection : how to talk to someone when you're mad, hurt, scared, frustrated, insulted, betrayed, or desperate / Harriet Lerner. First Quill edition. New York : HarperCollins, c2001. xiv, 256 pages ; 25 cm. text rdacontent unmediated rdamedia volume rdacarrier Includes bibliographical references and index. The key problem in relationships, particularly over time, is that people begin to lose their voice. Despite decades of assertiveness training and lots of good advice about communicating with clarity, timing, and tact, women and men find that their greatest complaints in marriage and other intimate relationships are that they are not being heard, that they cannot affect the other person, that fights go nowhere, that conflict brings only pain. Although an intimate, long-term relationship offers the greatest possibilities for knowing the other person and being known, these relationships are also fertile ground for silence and frustration when it comes to articulating a true self. And yet giving voice to this self is at the center of having both a relationship and a self. Much as she did in THE MOTHER DANCE, Lerner will approach this rich subject with tales from her personal life and clinical work, inspiring and teaching readers to speak their own truths to the most important people in their lives. Senior High School General Interest: Self Help. English Interpersonal communication. Intimacy (Psychology) ddc BK adryann[new] 10/28/2025 14582 14582 0 0 ddc 0 0 SHSL SHSL General Interest 2025-10-28 Donated by the chancellor Ms Candice Gotianuy 0 153.6 L56 2001 3UCBLSH00000262 2025-10-28 2025-10-28 GIS